So as the reality of this baby sinks in, so do a few other things. Like, now that I’ve accepted that this baby is staying IN THERE, I realize that this baby also has to come OUT, which with my history is more stressful than you think. I have PLENTY of fretting to do on that subject, so I think I’ll save that for another day, when I’m in the mood to work myself into a nice frothy lather about it.
Of course, I’m also starting to wonder what we “need” for this baby. Probably not much, and this isn’t something I worry about, but rather I ENJOY gathering baby stuff. Much of our previous baby gear has been borrowed (and returned) from friends and/or purchased 2nd hand and passed along to someone else in need. I don’t have a swing or bumbo seat, for example, but I’m pretty sure that a couple of phone calls could land me both. Also, I think my bouncy seat died, but I’m sure I can easily find another 2nd hand one.
The one thing David and I plan on buying is a jogger, as the one we’ve been using with Marin is on its VERY LAST LEG, so much so that last fall I became nervous taking Marin in walks too far from home, for fear that a wheel would fall off, and we’d be stranded. I’ll probably peruse Craig’s List and/or garage sales before buying something new, though I want something in new(ish) condition because I know we will use it often. Originally I thought we’d wait until NEXT summer to buy a jogger, as baby won’t be big enough this fall to necessitate one. But then I realized that if we got one this summer, we’d use it for Marin, who won’t be able to keep up on her bike/training wheels with the big girls on their bikes when we go for walks. Which is often.
(By the way, I have a Graco Metrolite that folds up easily, is very light-weight, and fits nicely in our van. We use it for any outing that is away from home: shopping, the zoo, fairs, etc. Our jogger stays in our garage is and used around our neighborhood only, as joggers are big and hard to fold up and take up tons of space, and they are also too hard to steer in stores, through doorways, etc. If we didn’t do so much walking around Tiny Town, I’d forgo the jogger all together, as the Graco is much better for out and about away from home.)
Also, this time, I’d like to use cloth diapers. (Anyone have some newborn-sized ones they’d like to sell to me?)
ANYWAY, moving on the POINT of this post (why yes, I do have one!), the thing I’m most worried about with this baby is whether it’s a girl or a boy. Now, let me explain. To my utter surprise, I honestly don’t have a preference this time of which we have (not that it would matter if I DID have a preference, as I obviously don’t have a choice). If we have a girl, she would be born the same month that Marin was born, and Marin’s baby clothes would work wonderfully for her. Also, another girl around her JUST MAKES SENSE, let’s be honest. If it’s a boy, we get the chance to experience parenting a BLUE PERSON– a son!– which would be cool too. (And you know that I adhere strictly to the “pink for girls, blue for boys” rules, right?) (Ha, ha, ha. I hope if we have a boy, he can rock the occasional girlish outfit, as we’re FLUSH with what society calls “girl” clothing around here.) (He’ll enjoy
purple lavender crib sheets, right?)
HOWEVER. As I said, neither David nor I has a strong preference. In fact, David has said that if he HAD TO CHOOSE (he hates these kind of hypothetical conversations, by the way), he would choose another girl, as we’re already on the Girl Train. But of course, he would enjoy a boy, too. But, as I said, we just don’t CARE very much this time, and I honestly have a hard time, after three girls, picturing anything BUT another daughter. No, what I worry about is that people are assuming that this pregnancy is our “trying for a boy” and that they’ll feel PITY for us if we have a 4th daughter.
I’m wondering if wearing a specially printed T-shirt would help get our message out. Maybe a whole collection of T-shirts, one for each day? Things like:
*NOPE! Not trying for a boy!
*My dad hopes I’m a girl!
*We would LOVE to raise FOUR daughters!
*If I’m a boy, I’ll probably have to wear girl clothes anyway, as that’s all my parents own!
*I will be loved whether I have a penis or not!
*No, my parents are NOT “trying for a boy”, STUPID.
(Yeah. As you can see, I suck at T-shirt logos. Maybe some of you have better ideas?) (Is that last one a little rude?)
Also, just to complicate things, as of right now we do not plan on finding out the sex of this baby before baby is born. I know (I KNOW), I prefer when OTHER pregnant people find out, as I HATE the suspense. I’m sorry about that. But I LIKE the suspense when it’s my own pregnancy, and so does David.
So, any ideas of how to prevent people from feeling sorry for us if we have a another daughter?